I entered motherhood almost eleven years ago.
When I gave birth to my first child I thought I understood how life would change. After all my mom and I were close, and she seemed to have it all together.
Turns out, I didn’t know her at all!!
I was the first of my friends to have a baby which meant my life dramatically shifted while theirs stayed the same.
Loneliness soon found a permanent home in my heart, and I began searching for other women who understood the magnitude of the motherhood.
I joined a mom’s group when my son was 9 months old, and so began my heart cry for encouraging women.
I’ve been a part of several groups over the last ten years, including two I managed. As I became a mother to more children (four in all) my need to stay connected to other women/mothers grew more important.
God has placed in me a deep desire to mentor women who are walking the same path with all the joys and disappointments motherhood manages to deliver. I wasn’t sure my real-life resume would ever match up to others’ expectations, but I continued to push through my insecurities.
A little over a year ago I opened my home to three women on a weekly basis. We didn’t know much about each other, but we had motherhood to string our lives together.
At first we got to know everyone through regular conversation. You know, the surface stuff shared with others when we’re not sure how deep we want to go. We were four women searching for encouragement, connection, and the words “me too.”
Fast forward thirteen months, and you will see a completely different group of mothers. We open up our hearts and speak life to one another. There have been plenty of tears shed because of the overwhelming burden motherhood hands out at any given moment.
We’ve shared times when our children have shocked us into anger and laughter, and opened up for advice and compassion when we feel lost in life’s raging waves.
Just yesterday one friend shared how she was contemplating not joining us. She was experiencing tension in many of her responsibilities as mother and wife and felt coming over would be too much.
As it turned out our small community is just what she needed.
I’m so glad I came today. I was on the verge of tears in the car, just feeling overwhelmed by everything going on. Sometimes I feel like not coming because it’s work getting everyone ready and in the car. But every time I make it over I feel encouraged and ready to face what’s going on.
This is what life is all about, ladies.
Finding women who will encourage, not judge.
Women who will love, not overpower.
Women who will share, not withhold.
Women who will pray, not gossip.
Women who will celebrate, not envy.
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17