Life is a balance of holding on and letting go. ~Anonymous
I listened intently as a new friend explained her overwhelming need for balance in her life. “I just don’t know how I am supposed to get everything done. Between babies and school, and my husband, and dinner, and cleaning. Where do I find the time to do what I feel like is my calling in ministry?”
Instantly my mind recognized this plea. I’ve heard it many times in my own thoughts, as well as from other women around me. There never seems to be enough time in the day to get everything done.
The responsibilities of a wife, mother, employee or employer, a ministry leader, a volunteer, a sister, a friend, cannot just seem overwhelming…THEY ARE OVERWHELMING! We have this nagging habit of making everything seem like it needs to be done right now.
I’ll share with you my spaghetti-like-train-of-thoughts with you so you know you are not alone.
I walk downstairs in the wee morning hours to our dark and still kitchen. “Okay, coffee needs to be made, I need to have breakfast, but is it too early to eat? Will I be hungry before my workout? I wonder what the kids are going to want. Did I just hear Ann cry? Wait, I need to write that post first, and send an email. But, really, I need to do my devotional, get my mind straight. Lord, help me do this right today. I’ve got so much on my plate. I wonder how Angie is doing, she seemed to be struggling when we talked last. Shoot, is Bryan out today? I wonder how far he has to drive. Will he be home for dinner?”
All these thoughts happen within about 5 seconds. Can you relate?
The need for balance begins as soon as we open our eyes.
Thoughts whirl, to-do lists run wild, and our need for control kicks into high gear. We must remind ourselves that balance is found in the holding on and letting go.
What does that even mean?
When I was a young single mother I went back to school for my Masters in teaching. I took care of my three small children, participated in online classes, ran a household, and tried to make up for the fact that my husband and their father had left us with nothing. Balance was not my friend.
As I grew out of that situation, I surrounded myself with loving Christian women, and began to dig deep into my beliefs. I slowly learned what type of balance I needed for my life (by no means have I arrived or have everything figured out).
Becoming intentional with my time meant saying no to things that would drain my schedule and yes to the things I believed would breathe life into me. It’s been a long, drawn out process with plenty of mistakes and missteps. But isn’t that the way most of us learn?
If you are searching for help in how to find true, life-giving balance in your life I would love to come alongside you and journey through this together. As a life coach I will help you decide what’s filling your soul cup and what is draining life from you. Together we can revive your schedule and discover that balance is not a necessary evil, but a necessary tool for a joy-filled life. Join me here!