We make vows to love and cherish forever. There is never a time in the wedding planning process when a woman believes her husband will leave their soon-to-be new life. But for many of us this reality happens and it crushes us to the core
My first husband walked out the back door one day while we were arguing. I can picture his back to me, walking across the grass, and then disappearing into the street. Little did I know he would be missing for almost eight weeks.
Our 3-month-old was laying in my arms snuggled against my chest, with nothing but sweet dreams flowing through his mind. I still remember the outifit he was wearing and the blanket that kept him warm.
My husband called me almost eight weeks later stating he had been living on the street and had no more money. He eventually turned himself in and spent about two weeks in jail.
We never lived together again.
About six months later our divorce was final, but my husband had walked away from our marriage long before that fateful day in June 2009.
He became addicted to drugs early in our marriage. This caused financial devestation, heartache, and a permanent space between us. I never trusted him again, and he could not forgive himself.
He never found the courage to change.
I share my story with ease now because I know what it’s like to have a husband leave a marriage. I watched my own marriage slowly decay into a rotten assemblage of broken promises and abandoned hearts. Our oldest child, who was four at the time, experienced anger and loss that I could not understand, while our other two children were too young to remember.
Those weeks and months and years were difficult. I continually piled the burdens on my shoulders while looking for love in the wrong places. I prayed but didn’t really believe God heard me.
Are you in a similar situation?
Maybe your husband is not an addict, but he has walked away from your marriage because he discovered something more pleasing.
You could still be married, but your husband is not available for you emotionally, mentally, and/or physically.
Or, maybe there has been too much pain between you and he has decided to take the road he believes is easier.
Whatever the circumstance is please know there are other women like you.
There are women all around you walking through heartbreak in their marriage. We may not see it on the surface, but when you reach out to encourage others with friendship and trust you will likely find a broken heart living in one of those women.
I wrote the prayer below to encourage your own prayer life with God while suffering through your husband leaving your marriage, or to pray over a friend who is experiencing this terrible loss.
A Prayer for When Your Husband Walks Away From Your Marriage
My heart is completely crushed.
I never thought my husband would leave our marriage.
I know things have been difficult, but I believed we would last forever.
I don’t understand what’s happening, the grief is unbearable.
Please help me to stay in your will and make choices that honor you.
I feel lost and afraid.
Protect me through this terrible time and give me wisdom on how to move forward.
In Jesus’ Name,
How have you handled a loss like this?